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Did I have any childhood experiences with the spirit world?

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As a spiritual medium and psychic, you may wonder if I had any childhood experiences with the spirit world while growing up. This is always a remarkably interesting question because each of us is a unique individual and we will have all different experiences with spirit. For some, these experiences happen early in life while others happened quite late in life.  Each one of us has a varying different level of sensitivity to spirit, our own spirit, and the spirit world.  When gathering with some of my mediumship friends, we sometimes discuss what our first encounters were of the spirit world. For me, it happened much later in life. I was a busy mom and businessperson. I did not have time to digest or even consider a spirit world. The thought of a spirit world or a person passing over was so difficult for me, after losing my brother in 1990.  Years passed and I continued to be busy working and minding my way through life until several pivotal events occurred. Due to these events, I started down the road of mediumship inquiry and understanding of the spirit world.   Even though mediums can have childhood experiences with the spirit world, a large portion of my mediumship acquaintances give a consensus that their awareness and development of the spirit world started during their adult years, like myself. And in fact, these friends in particular expressed they did not have childhood experiences with the spirit world, also like myself. However, for some of my medium friends, they did have childhood experiences with the spirit world. But then, the sensitivity of spirit would often subside during their teens and young adult life, only to resurface later when the time was right.  What do I mean by ‘childhood experiences with the spirit world’? You may be wondering what exactly I’m talking about when I refer to childhood experiences with the spirit world. I’m not referring to any sort of paranormal experience in the pop culture sense, like seeing ghosts or growing up in a haunted house. I’m talking about experiences where a child has an increased sensitivity – seeing, feeling, and hearing through their senses. A child has the time and ability to relax and feel deeply, and these feelings can lead to the awareness of spirit.  Sometimes there is a correlation where individuals who come into mediumship often do so because of difficulties and loss in their life, sometimes from childhood or early adult life. Through these difficult and even traumatic events, it allows the spirit to awaken.   My daughter, around the age of six or seven, spoke of a young spirit lady who communicated with her. The spirit lady’s name was something like Aleasa. The guidance I was given by a Spiritualist minister at the time was not to overact, but to just accept and see what happens.  Over time, the discussions subsided which worked well for our family. Each family of course is different, and you must do what you believe is correct for you.      For those who have a child with sensitivity to spirit – maybe their grandpa or grandmother – it is best not to dismiss it and not to overreact either, as these situations may create overly concerned reactions from those the child trusts, like their mom and dad.   If you have a child who is sensitive, it is my suggestion just to accept that they have a beautiful friend, and they may talk about someone who has a name and personality. There is nothing to fear when it comes to the spirit world; it is a loving and caring world.

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Why do I have dreams about deceased loved ones?

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I believe it is possible to communicate with spirits in dreams, and so I was asked recently: what does it mean to have dreams about deceased loved ones? This is a great question. I have experienced and do believe that we can communicate in our dreams with individuals who have passed – our family, friends, and pets. In my experience when I have dreams about deceased loved ones, they show themselves quite vividly, often healthy looking and with much love.  In particular, there are two dreams I’ve had that stand out for me. Both dreams were very impactful; one was of my brother, and the other of my grandfather. When my brother came to see me years ago in my dream – well before I became a medium – he arrived as a bright vibrant person wearing a bright white shirt and jeans, almost glowing in his appearance. In the dream, he loaded my luggage into the back of an Aerostar van (that’s an old one!) and told me telepathically that I was going to be okay.   I have shortened the full extent of the dream, but the message there was that I was changing, life was changing for me and he was helping me pack up and he was there to support me. I always knew this was his spirit communicating with me and a few years later I understood the significance of it.  When my grandfather came to me in a dream, I did not recognize him it until it was morning. He had his 50’s glasses on, and we were flying over our small town. Then we were in Disneyland and I was lost sitting on the side street with so many people.  He was right beside me.  He gave me a teddy bear and told me that I would be okay.  Again, there is much more to this, however the result of my grandfather coming to see me was that I was lost, and I would find my way.  At the time this was in fact true for me, and I can see why I would get a teddy bear from my grandfather.   My grandfather was so young and energized, lovely to see, and his facial features were the same but youthful and plump.  Both spirits were both supporting me in a none-verbal way and providing me with information about my life.  They didn’t necessarily communicate with me in my dream as one would expect; instead, they were a presence and they communicated through their eyes and thoughts. Both assisted with enlightening me about the meaning of my life. They also showed me my struggles, and what opportunities were in store for my future.   Do you have dreams about deceased loved one? If you have dreams about deceased loved ones, this is what I call a Visitation dream, and you may find that these dreams are quite different than our “normal” action packed dreams, or typical scary dreams, or other challenges and adventures that we encounter in our dreams. Some dreams we wake up and we wonder what was that all about! The dreams I had of my brother and grandfather were Visitation dreams. There are also dreams that are different than Visitation or regular dreams, where we may receive information from our higher consciousness. I call these Subconscious dreams. I’ll give you an example. I dreamed once that my teacher gave me a plump, beautiful, healthy, pig. Yes, she gave me a pig in my dreams!   But when I woke in the morning, I could not figure out why this pig was given to me.  It was a startling dream to say the least.  However, when I looked up the meaning of pigs in dreams, I found that a pig is often a sign of change, generally good ones. Especially if the pig is healthy, you might experience some new business success or career progress.  Isn’t that awesome! And in fact – this dream came about during my mediumship training and unfolding into something more, so I now look back on my beautiful pig as an inspiration of positive change.    I believe that there is a big difference between Subconscious dreams where you connect with your higher self, and Visitation dreams, where you may have dreams about deceased loved ones. The difference is in the vividness and the absolute beauty of our deceased loved ones during a Visitation dream. When our loved one comes to see us in dreams, it is often during a time in our life when we need their help.  But man, oh man, they are the most beautiful dreams! Because you can feel them right with you right with you.  Once a person wakes up from dreams about deceased loved ones, there is often a feeling of knowing that your family was with you. I have met others who were slightly shaken because of the vividness and they didn’t really know if it was their family spirit or not.  After listening to their stories and their experience, it is often with gratitude and thankfulness that I can assure them that a loved one was with them in their dreams. So, to answer the post’s question of what does it mean to have dreams about deceased loved ones – it means that your family is with you, and they are sending you love and support at a time in your life when you need it most. And they may even enlighten you about other things like your purpose, your struggles, or what’s to come in the future for you. On the other hand, I believe some of our “regular” dreams are our higher selves telling us something about our lives that is about to happen, or our higher self is coming to us at a time when we are working through difficulties and change in our lives. When our family visits us in dreams about deceased loved ones, it feels very real,  amazingly vivid, and a connection that unlike any

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How To Avoid Mediumship and Psychic Scams

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Have you ever considered going to a medium or psychic, but are reluctant to do so because you are unsure about their ethics and validity? It is easy to be concerned as many of us want to avoid mediumship and psychic scams; we don’t want to have our vulnerability compromised by someone we don’t know. However, I do believe in the work psychics and mediums do for the healing of others. And I do believe there are far more gifted and kind psychics and mediums available than not.    In my early days of learning about mediumship and psychic work, I wanted to see mediums and psychics in action for myself, so I could start gaining my own knowledge. I wanted to find out how they work, how does it feel, what type of information they would provide to me. There were times that I had some hesitancy because you are never quite sure of their reputation, skills, or ability. Unfortunately, mediumship and psychic scams are out there. My Experience With Readings That Didn’t Go Well For the most part, mediums are extremely honest, caring, and try very hard to please the client and the spirit world. However, I do recall once when I was travelling, I came upon a store that had mediums and psychics. I booked an appointment and met with a lady to do a psychic and mediumship reading. At that time, I was fascinated by mediums and psychics, and did not know anything about how to avoid mediumship or psychic scams, but I felt it would be a good experience. During the reading though, I answered too many questions and provided too much information about my life. I felt that the reading was more about the psychic giving me guidance after I provided the information. There was really nothing new, nothing enlightening, and nothing that was evidential in her reading. It was disheartening because I paid quite a bit of money with the exchange rate at the time. I left without feeling uplifted, and never remembered or retained any information from the reading. Did the medium know that she was not giving me correct or helpful information? I do not know. I do feel though that she genuinely believed in her heart that she was giving me good information that I could use in my situation at the time. While this lady may not have been a psychic scammer exactly, there was an underlying feeling that I had paid for something that was subpar.   A few years prior in the late 80s, I met a psychic in a travelling circus that came to our town. Nervous, I attempted to secure a reading and was successful. I was quite young at the time, and the psychic said that I would find two gentlemen right away, one of which would become my husband, but I would need to pick one from the two to marry. At the time as a young lady, it sounded great. Looking back now though, it was definitely far-fetched! As time went on, there was no blonde haired gentleman, nor did I have to pick between two. Thinking about the reading now, she was likely giving me information that she felt I wanted to hear. This is part of the danger with psychic scams; they tell people what they want to hear rather than what they need to hear. I believe some mediums who do not take training may work in the same way. Some may try to push encouraging information upon a sitter, and this is what happened to me at the circus. However, not all mediums and psychics are of this caliber. This is only my own personal experience and it is a very early one. Tips To Avoid Mediumship And Psychic Scams Why is it that some people are concerned or scared to see a psychic or medium? Well, it doesn’t help that we have all seen television shows sometimes portraying psychics as scammers, or even detective shows that talk about scammers in the psychic and mediumship environment. We have also heard of people that had subpar readings and felt they had been scammed when they paid for their reading, similar to my experiences. I have a few important suggestions to make that will help you to avoid mediumship and psychic scams. Firstly, if you go to a medium and give several ‘No’ answers to things they ask, or if the medium asks a lot of questions, then there is a possibility the medium is not connected with you, and you need to consider if the reading is of benefit to yourself. In life we do not get along with every person we meet, and in mediumship it’s the same. There are times that a sitter and reader do not mesh well together, and that is understandable. This does not mean a scam has taken place, rather, it is just two people who may not work well with each other. For myself as a reader, if this occurs, then a full refund is provided to the client.   When trying to avoid mediumship and psychic scams, another tip is to ensure that you do not engage in excessive conversation during the reading. I suggest you only say ‘Yes,’ ‘No,’ or ‘I don’t know.’ Other than that, you should not provide detailed information to the psychic or medium.    The reason being is, if a sitter only uses ‘Yes,’ ‘No,’ or ‘I don’t know’ then the medium has more time to work. Also, it discourages the medium and sitter getting caught up in a side conversation. Any side conversations between the sitter and medium takes away from the spirit world, or the medium’s connection with the sitter’s soul. It is the responsibility of the medium to provide information to you in an ethical, honest, and evidential manner. All your readings should be evidence-based. Evidence-based readings are readings that have true knowledge about the sitter’s experiences that nobody else would know, evidence of your life or the ones that have passed.  When

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Negative Encounters With The Spirit World | Do they happen?

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In life, we often think about scary movies that leave an impact on us.  We begin to wonder about scary moments or negative encounters with the spirit world after watching crazy horror movies.  Sometimes people ask me if I’ve ever had any negative encounters with the spirit world, and the answer may surprise you. We all have scary dreams, or sometimes even ominous experiences where one might believe the spirit world is to blame. But in my experience of being a spiritual medium, I have actually never had a negative encounter with the spirit world. Not before, during or after a reading. It simply does not happen because that is not how the spirit world works! When we pass over, it is hard to believe that we would want to come back and scare our living family members, cause distress, or create havoc to our loved ones.   Although – I am sure some of us with a more joking attitude would love to ‘haunt’ our family, but that is not how it works. My teacher, Mavis Pittilla, is a great teacher and mentor, and is well regarded in the spiritualist community. It is my understanding that Mavis has not encountered a negative experience while communicating with the spirit world – and she has been a medium for over 50 years. This information, along with all of my co-mediums who say the same thing, tells me that having negative encounters with the spirit world simply does not happen. Where does our perception of negative encounters with the spirit world come from then? This is a good question, because if you really think about it, why would a family member come back only to be violent? Your answer may be the usual things – the person was murdered, or had a violent life, or they want revenge. But these are merely cliches and perceptions created by the media. Pop culture, media and films have planted numerous ideas about negative encounters with the spirit world, primarily for entertainment value. In addition, some religious organizations also speak ill of this type of communication and portray it in a very negative light. But in reality, the way a person lived or passed on does not create a malevolent nature when they communicate from the spirit world. Being scared of having negative encounters with the spirit world is really about our own fears. As awareness of spiritual communication and love from the spirit world evolves and more people become accustomed to the consideration of life after death, the fear will reduce within ourselves.  The spirit world really is full of love, and it’s a universal love that has no part in violent, scary, or negative communications with us. I have no fear whatsoever when sitting down with a client and connecting. But I do have a belief that we sometimes manufacture a lot of fear. Fear is part of the fabric of who we are. Every human is afraid of something, especially if it’s ‘the unknown.’   We become fearful when we do not understand something, and it can lead one to think that negative encounters with the spirit world can happen. A good example is when someone gets on an airplane for the first time, not really understanding how they work or not really believing fully that they’ll be ok. However, over time and with enough flights under our belts, the fear reduces. This is very much the same when a person comes to a medium for the first time. We are a society that has a lot of fear, and I understand that. But remember that sometimes ideas of scary things get manufactured, just by our own thoughts, and our own unsureness of the unknown.  So, if I can leave you with a thought of love, it is that the spirit world is full of love, and if they decide to communicate with us, they are going to communicate that love and how much they miss us and care for us, and that they are still with us.If you have any questions or concerns about having a spiritual reading, please contact me.

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