Mediumship

These are wonderful questions! This has come up time and time again as people question the difference between a ghost and a spirit.  People are often confused or unsure about ghosts and spirits, which leads often to a fear of the unknown. I hope to alleviate any fears in this blog post and give you my honest opinion as an experience medium myself. I have learned and experienced throughout my teachings and my practice that a spirit is the soul of someone who has lived a life, passed before us, and is close to the earth by the love of family that are left behind. The love we have for our family here on earth is what keeps our spirit family close in the spirit world, and vice versa. For example, if a son passes to the spirit world and he has a deep love of his family, his spirit will stay close to the family left behind here on earth, whom he loves very much. He will be there to encourage and support his family, and send love to them through signs, symbols and an awareness that he is close. He would also be able to communicate through a medium to connect with family, due to the mutual love he shares with his family. The communication and ability to communicate through a medium is greater because of this love from both sides.  On the other hand, ghosts are memories, atmospheres and energies left behind. People often talk about going into old buildings, hotel rooms, cold boardrooms, and abandoned places, and because of their own sensitivities and awareness, they may feel the energy that is left in a room or building. This often manifests as feelings of goosebumps or hair standing on end, feelings of fear or unease, feeling unsure, or simply other emotions like sadness. Some individuals will feel the energy of a woman or man, a child, an elder, or even a dog, and they may understand that something happened in this room or building. That is the energy that is left behind, often termed as a ghost. So a ghost is an energy that is left over after someone has passed, but it is not the soul of the person. Sometimes when someone dies tragically or in a difficult situation, the energy of a place or person can be left over and those who are more sensitive than others will feel the energy. A weird strange feeling in a home or building, or even an old argument in a room that happened years ago between the deceased when they were alive with another person, can be enough to make one feel that there is a ghost close by. This remnant energy is often only felt by people who are very sensitive naturally. To conclude: A ghost is simply the energy left over from an event or person.A spirit is the soul of the person who has passed to the spirit world.  Lastly, I do want to clarify that spirits do not haunt places. This is not what our family and friends in spirit want for us.  Consider this—would your grandmother, grandfather, mother, father, sister, brother, aunt, uncle, or close friend want to bring fear into your life by haunting you?  Of course not! They would rather support and help guide you through your life, and speak through a medium to say “I love you”. Spirits of people who have passed are very loving. I have seen this time and again in many of my readings that I do for people. If you have anymore questions about this please contact me or book a reading here.

The idea of being a medium—someone who can communicate with spirits or souls from other realms—is often tied to both nature and nurture. Some schools of thought believe mediums are “born” with natural abilities, while others think these abilities can be developed over time through practice, training, or personal experiences. For myself, I did not realize that I had any gifts growing up.  I had a very normal and busy upbringing. It wasn’t till later on in my life and going through many difficulties that I realized that I was very sensitive to people’s emotions and could read them and psychically understand what will happen in the future.  I learned that I had a sensitivity to the spirit world.    When I began my journey of exploring the afterlife and trying to understand the circle of life, I uncovered a yearning within myself, a desire to learn more about the spirit world and communicating with the spirits. It was in the early days of taking classes over an 8-year period to understand how to connect to the spirit world that I was able to gain much knowledge about the spirit world and connecting with our loved ones who have passed.  I feel I was born with these abilities, but they lay dormant within me until much later in life. For yourself, you may find that you are a sensitive individual who can psychically read the room that you are in, and have always been able to read your parents reactions, or psychically are able to know what is in the near future. These are capabilities that are often shown prior to the development of mediumship. Which one of these do you feel you most relate to? These beliefs vary depending on personal experiences and our own spiritual development. Some view mediumship as a calling, while others see it as a universal potential that can be accessed by anyone. If you find you are drawn to mediumship and have a sensitivity and yearning to learn more,  I encourage you to seek out a development group, mentor, and like-minded individuals that can assist you in your development.   There are many great courses that are well-taught, and there are some that are not, so please do your homework and research and always be sure to ask for referrals.

If you’ve ever had a mediumship reading before, you may have wondered if a medium can tell if you have a gift to communicate with spirit. Recently, I was asked by a sitter in a reading this exact question. She wanted to know if she had mediumistic abilities. I told her that I felt she had the ability to connect with the spirit world, and provided her with some information that she found helpful.    How to tell if you have the gift to communicate with spirit  I provided her with information about her sensitivity – her ability to feel and sense her surroundings, feel people’s emotions, and have intuitive insights for her life and others. These are some of the attributes that a person often possesses long before becoming a medium.  Often a person has a bit of anxiety from being super sensitive and aware of their surroundings.  These sensitive abilities are particularly important when feeling and sensing the spirit world. While some people just know that they have their family and friends close by and can feel the subtleties of their family members from spirit, there are others that are not so sure. For those who are not sure and are wondering about communicating with spirit,  a medium may be able to help you with understanding yourself along with understanding your connection and patterns you have to be able to connect with those who have passed over.   Do you have the gift to communicate with spirit? I can often sense and have a ‘knowing’ that a person has the ability to connect to the spirit world. Sometimes I explain some of the attributes one possesses to have the connection and ability. For myself, I was told many years ago that I had the ability when I was not very sure of myself.  This information came from a very reputable person, a medium that I trusted deeply. This helped me along my path of spiritual development and discovery of myself along with the unfolding of my mediumship abilities.   For those who are seeking to find out if they have a gift, please seek out a reputable evidential medium who has been trained by senior teachers, has past experience helping others, and has a psychic and intuitive background. This allows them to read you when in a sitting and to sense your abilities. Mediumistic abilities are within the soul of a person, as it is the soul that connects with the spirit world, and this is the soul power that we use when we connect and receive information.   When seeking out a medium to help you with your unfolding mediumship, always have a bit of a skeptical mind and be wise to exercise caution when evaluating claims related to your mediumistic and psychic abilities.  Research the medium you seek guidance from and always keep an open mind when seeking information about the spirit world.

Becoming a medium or enhancing mediumship abilities is a personal and unique journey.  Each one of us goes through a very personal transformation within ourselves to become a medium. It’s in the journey that we learn about ourselves, who we are and how to help others through mediumship.     For myself, I went through years of personal development and understanding of self. In learning about ourselves and understanding who we are,  we can truly learn about what may hold us back from furthering our mediumship development. It’s a gradual process for many, even if we have known since we were young that we were mediums.  Each of us must develop mediumship abilities and learn how best to communicate with the spirit world. Learning the various clair senses, working through challenges, and understanding spirit are by far the most important aspects for our development. For mediums who develop the skills to connect with the spirit world, they often go through many ups and downs, trials and tribulations, movement forward and setbacks to become a beautiful medium for the spirit world.   Here are some common reasons why you may feel held back in your development a mediumship. Each one is just as important as the others: Beliefs Sometimes, limiting beliefs or doubts can hinder progress. Often we come into mediumship from other traditions and religions that challenge our beliefs, and may possibly hold us back from our development. Consider the beliefs you hold about mediumship and ask yourself if any other them may be subconsciously hindering you from developing further. Fear and Anxiety Fear or anxiety about the process or outcomes can block our sensitivity and abilities. With fear, it is one of the more common reasons why people hold themselves back from developing mediumship.  Fear lessens our ability to communicate and disallows the flow of information, so consider fear if you are being held back in developing. One Fear that many have is the medium does not want to be wrong in front of another human being. This fear then does not allow the medium to advance their skills because they often are in fear of making a mistake, which is not a good energy for accessing our senses. Self-Confidence Lack of self-confidence can affect your ability to trust and interpret the information you receive.  If we are unsure and less confident when connecting to the spirit world we will not be able to deliver a message of love and hope for those who seek our help. Confidence that you are on the right path, that you are in fact receiving information, is essential to developing mediumship communication.   Training and Education Ongoing education and practice with other mediums is essential.  We often can be held back from developing our skills further if we do not actively continue to self-develop with education and training.  For myself I have trained with the most amazing teachers at the Arthur Findlay College where I will be returning to in 2024. Spiritual Development & Study Strengthening your spiritual connection will enhance your mediumship abilities.  Often mediums develop in practice circles which assist in breaking through barriers and help with spiritual development of self. In addition to practicing, I often suggest reading spiritual books about mediumship, intuition, and the spirit world for more understanding.   Intention and Purpose Clarify your intentions and purpose behind developing as a medium. Having a clear sense of why you are pursuing this path can provide focus and motivation.  For myself it was to help others after doing my own healing from grief. For some, they jump into mediumship too fast and try to work with the spirit world without developing spiritual practice, understanding themselves, or receiving training, and they burn out rather quickly and become very discouraged.  Take your time in your development as you may end up holding yourself back without the knowledge and time to understand your purpose.   Feedback and Validation Seek constructive feedback and validation from experienced mentors. This can offer insights into your strengths and areas for improvement. With proper guidance, your mediumship should flourish.  Part of development is receiving much-needed feedback as this will assist you with developing.  Seek teachers and tutors of the highest good to assist you.   Patience and Persistence Mediumship development is often a gradual process. Be patient with yourself, stay persistent, and acknowledge the progress you make along the way.  When you feel you need to climb a mountain,  take it slow. When you feel like giving up, take a breath and see how far you have come.  You are very important to the spirit world so please do take care of yourself and take the time needed to develop the best of yourself.   Remember that everyone’s journey is unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach to mediumship development.

Trance mediumship is a practice that has taken me years to develop. It is a very crucial skill in the delivery of mediumship readings. The practice of trance mediumship involves a medium entering into an altered state of consciousness, often referred to as a trance, to allow communication with spirits from the spiritual realm. During this altered state, the medium may be partially or completely unaware of their surroundings and may allow a spirit to use their body as a form of communication. How does trance mediumship communication happen? The process typically involves the medium going into a deep state of relaxation or trance, which can range from a light trance where the medium is still aware of their surroundings to a deep trance where they may have little or no awareness of the physical world. In this altered state, the medium may speak, write, or otherwise convey messages purportedly from spirits and guides. Trance mediumship has been practiced in various cultures and spiritual traditions throughout history, and it is often associated with spiritual beliefs. It’s important to note that beliefs about the nature of trance mediumship, and the purpose of the communication can vary widely among different spiritual and religious traditions. As with any spiritual or metaphysical practice, experiences can vary widely among practitioners. If you are interested in trance mediumship, seek out mediums who have developed over many years,  often seven or more to help guide you in your questions.   Trance mediumship is not for everyone so always keep an open mind and open heart.

Learning the art of mediumship requires dedication and effort to become the best medium you can be.  The practice of connecting and communicating with spirits requires a combination of study, practice, and personal development. It’s important to approach this practice with an open mind, respect for the spiritual realm, and a commitment to ethical conduct.  For many mediums,  the first step in mediumship development is self reflection, self discovery and in many cases, healing of oneself. Mediumship is often a very personal journey of self discovery.  Without understanding self and soul, your process of connecting to the spirit world may not reach its full potential.    If you have an interest in learning mediumship, here are some pointers to consider as someone who has been in mediumship development for many years now: Research and seek out Mediumship demonstrations and private sittings Begin by researching and watching mediums while working.  Attend mediumship demonstrations and consider booking a private sitting with a medium.   Watch and take note of how the medium works and the information that comes through.  Take time to read about mediumship, mediums, and learn about the history, various techniques, and different schools of thought within mediumship. Engage in Self-Reflection Understand your motivations and intentions for wanting to learn mediumship.  Self reflections and understanding of self is key to knowing if being a medium is aligned with you.  Ensure you have the best intentions and a genuine desire to help others and communicate with the spirit world when learning mediumship.   Follow Ethical Guidelines Familiarize yourself with ethical guidelines for mediumship. This includes obtaining the consent of the person seeking a reading and respecting boundaries.  Do not approach people in public places as this is unethical and can be disturbing to the recipient. Understand that being truthful and honest is necessary in this field of work, and not only are you helping the client, but you are certainly working for the spirit world.  Check in with yourself and your ethics; do you feel that you have the ethics to work for spirit? Develop Your Psychic Abilities Mediumship often involves abilities such as clairvoyance (clear seeing), clairaudience (clear hearing), and clairsentience (clear feeling). Develop and practice these abilities through meditation and exercises to learn mediumship.  Often a person develops the psychic abilities first and practices with clients before working with the spirit world.  Consider that it may be a more natural transition to first receive feedback from a client through psychic work than to start out by receiving feedback from the spirit world. Practice Meditation and Mindfulness Regular meditation can help you increase your sensitivity to the spiritual realm and improve your intuition. It’s essential to develop a calm and focused mind.  While some people do not need to meditate to become a medium, others do.   Finding peace in the mind assists with the altered states needed to connect to the spirit world.  If you don’t have a quiet mind, consider finding time to meditate when learning mediumship. Expand Your Philosophy Learn and develop an understanding of the spirit world and how the soul and spirit is an integral part of developing mediumship.  Undertaking some commitment of studying philosophy and the great mediums that came before us who paved the way will give you a great foundation upon which to learn mediumship.   Philosophy helps develop the medium with a foundation of understanding.  Do study when time permits.  Join a Spiritual or Development Circle One area of importance for development will be working with others that are like-minded individuals whom you may practice with. Seek out local or online spiritual or development circles where you can learn and practice mediumship in a supportive environment. This is necessary to develop mediumship skills over time.  Experienced mediums often lead these groups. These development circles are often weekly or bi-weekly so consider regular attendance to gain more insight into your mediumship.  Find Mentorship If possible, find a mentor who is an experienced medium.  Often an experienced medium has worked with spirit for many years, has the history, philosophy and training,  and is willing to guide and teach you. Learning from someone with expertise can be invaluable and help understand the subtleties of mediumship.   Mentorships are often 12 months.   Practice with Others Practice is key to developing mediumship skills. Offer readings to friends and family members who are open to the experience. Consider keeping a journal to record your experiences and refine your abilities. There are times when spirit connections will amaze you. Please keep a record of these times, as there are times when mediumship can challenge you so it’s best have notes to look back on and know how far you’ve come.   One milestone that I am aware of is providing one hundred non-paid readings before charging any money.  Trust Your Intuition The foundation of mediumship is our intuition. Mediums often understand that they have good intuitive skills before they begin to learn mediumship.   Learn to trust your intuition and this will help in your development and messages you receive from the spirit world.  Doubt can block your abilities, hold you back, cause anxiousness and self doubt, so cultivate self-confidence and enjoy the experiences. Continue Learning From my experience, the spirit world wants the medium to continue to grow and learn.  The spirit world is one of the best teachers and will help the medium develop their skills.   Keep learning and expanding your knowledge. Attend workshops, seminars, and conferences related to mediumship would help with the development of the medium.   Maintain a Supportive Community Being a medium can be a lonely road.  Not everyone will understand or be able to connect with your choice of becoming a medium. Consider connecting with like-minded individuals who are also interested in mediumship. A supportive community can provide encouragement, guidance, and a sense of belonging.  Be Patient and Persistent Developing mediumship skills can take time – many years for many mediums.  It is said that one never fully develops as there is always more