Mediumship

With mediumship, many people often wonder if it’s true that all mediums see ghosts. Throughout history, there have been numerous accounts of individuals who have possessed the ability to communicate with the dead, serving as a link between the physical world and the afterlife. It has been a subject of fascination for centuries and even now, I find that there is much more fascination since the introduction of social media and television shows. But I must say, the reality is that not all mediums see or sense ghosts or spirits, even though mediumship is often portrayed in an over-dramatic manner in society that says the opposite. What is mediumship? To begin with, it is important to define what mediumship is. Mediumship is the ability to communicate with spirits and receive messages from the afterlife. Mediums are often referred to as “psychic mediums” because they have a heightened ability to sense and interpret psychic energy.  Mediums use their abilities to communicate with spirits and interpret the messages that they receive. This can be done through a variety of methods, including clairvoyance (seeing spirits), clairaudience (hearing spirits), and clairsentience (feeling the presence of spirits). Contrary to popular belief, not all mediums have the ability to see or sense ghosts or spirits. Some mediums rely solely on their other clairs to interpret messages from the afterlife. Additionally, not all mediums are able to communicate with spirits at will. Some mediums communicate with spirits under certain circumstances and with the correct intention.  Mediumship & Social Media Misconceptions The portrayal of mediumship in some social media and television shows has contributed to the misconception that all mediums see or sense ghosts or spirits. In movies and television shows, mediums are often depicted as being able to see and interact with ghosts and spirits in a very dramatic and exaggerated manner. This portrayal has led many people to believe that all mediums possess this ability, when in fact, this is not the case. Another common misconception about mediumship is that connecting to the spirit world can be viewed as a dark or evil practice. While there are certainly individuals who use their psychic and mediumship abilities for disingenuous purposes, the majority of mediums are genuine individuals who use their abilities to help others. Mediumship can be a powerful tool for healing as it allows individuals to communicate with loved ones who have passed away. Do all mediums see ghosts? In conclusion, mediumship is complex and not all mediums see or sense ghosts or spirits. Mediumship is a complex practice that involves a variety of psychic abilities and methods of communication. While some mediums may be able to see or sense spirits, others rely solely on their other abilities to interpret messages from the afterlife. 

This is an interesting question! It’s only natural to wonder if people who have psychic abilities read people in public all the time. However, I must say that this is generally not the case. I say generally because the sensational spectacle of TV mediums showcases many examples of mediums reading people in public, like at the check out counter, the bakery, a place of business etc. Pop culture and social media makes it look simple and easy to read people in public, however, most mediums and psychics do not subscribe to this method, and here is why!   Why psychic mediums don’t typically read people in public It is my opinion that when a psychic reads people in public by approaching unknowing individuals or people they’ve only just met, this is a violation of that person’s private space. A medium or psychic should not be entering into psychic discussions and channeling information without the consent of the individual. Also, approaching individuals with a psychic reading while in public is simply not necessary. The only reason why psychic mediums do this is for their own gratification. All ethical professional individuals should try to maintain healthy boundaries, and a psychic medium is no exception. Being a psychic medium requires boundaries When I am not in a reading with a client, I am closed off with my abilities and intuition. I simply am just me! If we didn’t close off our intuition and just be ourselves, we would be in a heightened state of awareness of sensing and feeling all the time, which would become very draining and affect our daily lives energetically. If a psychic medium is a professional and practicing regularly with their gifts, it is important to take breaks, have vacations and allow for downtime in their schedules. For myself,  I only read for people when a client has hired me to do so. Other than this, I do not read people outside of working hours. This is the healthiest way to have a connection with yourself and the client or person in the spirit world. Are you considering becoming a professional psychic medium? If you are practicing to become a professional psychic medium, please take my advice and do not approach people in public or randomly give readings to friends at a party. We never know if we are affecting people negatively by spontaneously approaching them. You just never know – they may not want your reading, and it may affect them negatively. If someone wants a reading, they’ll come to you and book one. So it’s best to leave readings for when a client professionally hires you for one.

If you are interested in mediumship development, you may wonder – are people born a spiritual medium? Or do they become one later in life? How would this feel for myself? We are all born with many abilities that make us unique individuals. This is part of our human experience and our soul path through life. When we speak of becoming a medium though, it is our uniqueness and life experiences that will assist in mediumship development – not whether or not we are born a spiritual medium already.   Let me explain. Where does mediumship development start? Often, people who are drawn to mediumship may have a family history of parents and grandparents or other close ancestors who are very intuitive. Consider the possibility that your past family members may be very gifted, sensitive or Intuitive. This often is passed down through the generations.  An intuitive person will often have the ability to sense and feel others early on in life, providing them with a sense of their surroundings and how others feel. These individuals often know that they have gifts and abilities to sense, feel and read people. One could say these people were ‘born’ with an intuitive nature. On the other hand, there are individuals who work diligently to develop the ability to communicate with the spirit world. Over many years of training and studying, people can learn how to communicate after a spark of interest in this subject.    To be able to communicate with the spirit world depends on where you are on your journey of life. The journey of life is very important as mediumship development unfolds naturally and beautifully over time. At the end of the day, mediumship development begins with the self, regardless of what skills you were born with or intuitive development in your past family history. You don’t have to be born a spiritual medium to practice mediumship Some individuals are naturally sensitive at birth, while others gain more of an understanding of the spirit world later in life. Neither is better or provides more abilities when developing for the spirit world. The development of mediumship depends on your own sensitivity, your life path and your commitment. The soul develops in our own unique way and provides the power that connects the spirit world with us here on earth.  Please consider this when thinking about becoming a medium and how well you may be at this work!   Let me ask you a question. Can everyone play piano? Technically yes. We all can learn how to play a piano, pound on the keys, and make noise come out. Few of us have the raw talent that makes it effortless to play beautiful music on the piano though. Most of us have to take many lessons and practice endlessly to be able to play well. The same is true of mediumship. Mediumship is available for all to learn, and we will learn at our own pace and in our own time. We may never know our skills unless we put in the time and effort to continually blend with the spirit world. For myself, I was not naturally born a spiritual medium; I chose to be a medium. Long ago I witnessed a medium deliver a demonstration at a local church and thought it was fascinating and healing at the same time. I then pursued the study and mediumship development with no prior experience connecting with spirit.  I developed the skills necessary to hold the communication link and have worked hard to maintain a relationship with spirit. I believe that everyone who is sensitive and drawn to this field has the ability, and it’s just a matter of awakening and developing it. Regardless, if you have sensitivity and intuition in your past family or discovered your abilities later in life, know that the important work you can do as a medium to help others is superior to how your abilities came about. When we work for the spirit world, somebody is looking down and thanking us for the ability to connect their family on Earth to those in spirit. The spirit world has much gratitude for abilities we have to share, regardless of how we acquired them.    

I have to say, sometimes I feel I want to give up on mediumship! It’s interesting how there are some activities that make us happy, and bring us joy. However, the world we live in sometimes challenges us on what we can and can’t do. Many of us know that life is not always easy. I say all this because mediumship is one of those things that falls into this category. Mediumship is not easy to learn and on average it takes a person about seven years to learn intuitive and mediumship skills, and learn the philosophy, understand the ways one could connect to spirit, and understand all the various clairs to help them be the best medium they can be. It is a craft. And believe me, there were many times I wanted to give up! I wanted to walk away from my craft because I did not think I was good enough, and sometimes compared myself to others as I felt they were more advanced then me. Isn’t this a travesty of the spirit? When one discovers a true passion such as mediumship, the colours of their soul, their happiness, the brightness shines through, and yet they may have the thought more often than not to give up.    Why do we often feel like giving up on things we love?  Why is it that we sometimes want to give up on things that make us happy? This is not only mediumship but life in general. That inner dialogue is sometimes the biggest challenge to overcome, and often it is heightened in mediumship. When we work with our sensitivity, we often find that mediumship can be emotional, can cause us to trigger all the difficulties in our lives, but it can also create healing for ourselves. I ask myself, why do I do this work? Why is this so important to my heart and soul? For me, it is because when I help others, I help myself. The love of mediumship is so strong that I am able to work in both worlds which provides much satisfaction. Mediumship not only heals ourselves, but it heals the spirit world. When we, the medium, heal two worlds, we have done our job. Message Received: Don’t Give Up On Mediumship! The other day, I happened to be working on a spirit board with family, and the spirit board clearly wrote: Arlene, don’t give up. I was astonished as most times there is no message for me, but there is usually a message for others I am with at the time. I was in awe that the spirit world had been listening to my contemplations about taking more time for myself and leaving mediumship. When I saw this message on the spirit board, I realized that the spirit world loves me and accepts me for who and what I am.       Mediumship is a long road of learning and my tutor has often said “You only become the best medium the day before you pass to the spirit world.” She indicated that we continue to learn and evolve with our mediumship and we continue to grow. I love the idea that we all continue to grow and learn from spirit, however, I know it’s not an easy road. The mainstream media and television shows make it appear like it’s much easier than what it is! As if all contacts with the spirit world are 100% accurate. But in reality, mediums often are not able to reach this exceptionally high number. I always try for 100% of course, but often on average only get about 80% accuracy. Regardless, I am quite happy to be the source for healing and the in-between medium for spirit and my sitter. If you happen to be a medium and are contemplating giving up, please don’t! And please always know that the spirit world loves you, listens to your thoughts and wants the best for you. The spirit board recently indicated that I must not give up; they love me and want me to continue the healing work that I do. So allow me to be your spirit board today and provide you the same message.

I think we can all agree that that nothing really ever stays constant in life. We are bound to the changing cycles and seasons. In fact it’s true also that seasons and cycles affect mediumship and the mediums who give readings for others. The various cycles, often unseen, in this world may result in changes with mediumship and the evidence provided when doing a reading. Some of the season and cycles will have a positive uplift to the medium’s readings while other cycles can result in slightly reduced outcomes for a reading. Let me explain. How Seasons And Cycles Affect Mediumship If the information isn’t flowing well in a reading, there could be a good reason for this that relates to the cycles and seasons, the same way how some people can get the “winter blues.” We all know there are different seasons to the planetary orbit. The season of spring and summer can lead to stronger readings due to the uplifting weather while the wintertime, for myself especially, can be similar to pulling teeth – the information simply does not flow as smoothly and nicely in the winter as this is a time of hibernation. It’s so interesting how seasons and cycles affect mediumship! There is a lot to be said about lunar phases as well. Throughout history, we’ve seen that the full moon has an effect on people, and it can also have an effect on mediums. During a full moon, people are more active or take risks during this time due to the energy. And for some mediums from past centuries, they relied on full moon cycles for doing readings and presentations due to the more intense energy of the full moon. For myself, a full moon provides energy to the reading and a potential better connection. A quarter moon, almost a sliver, does not have the energy and as such, readings during this time could be difficult due to the sliver of moon having less energy to move around. Hence, less activity.   What other cycles can affect mediumship? Another cycle that can affect mediumship could be the cycle of the tides. If you live close to the ocean. you may be easily effected with the energy that pulls the tide in or out. There is change with the tides, the air and energy around, all of which also affects mediums. Consider weather patterns and the cycles of atmospheric events that also that affect us. Those who are affected by weather changes can also affect the medium through the weather pattern cycles.  Our own body cycle that happens naturally every month has an up and a down to it.  Women are affected by this monthly occurrence throughout life which can have an effect on their mediumship or readings.  What is really interesting is that men also have a cycle within their body system that will have an effect on their mediumship too. Not to mention astrology and our birth sign also play a huge part in our ability to connect with the spirit world. A person should learn their sign when learning mediumship as our sign plays a huge role in our development and how we manage our changes in mediumship. Astrology is a great area to explore more information on the cycles of ourselves. Many Things Can Affect Mediumship So you see, there is not just one reason why a medium may not produce enough evidential information. There are lots of things affecting us all of the time. And on the other hand, a medium can produce very detailed information when the energy of the cycle is right. It is a wonderful feeling to be able produce great quality evidential information for the sitter, however, I hope you can see now that there are so many outside factors that could affect why a cycle of readings goes well, and others do not. I couldn’t possibly list all of the cycles in this world here that could affect mediums and mediumship, so I encourage you to research others and find out what might be affecting your mediumship.

Sometimes as a parent, we may run into a time when our child says they see spirits. This happened to me in fact. When my daughter was quite young, she talked about seeing a lady with the name Alisa. I inquired further with whom she was talking to and she vaguely described Alisa in her mind’s eye.  Her conversations with Alisa had gone on for months, but they were sporadic in timing.   Although my daughter mentioned this lady a number of times to me, I didn’t really know what to say or do when replying to her at the time. It can be a delicate subject, when our child says they see spirits. What should a person say to a young daughter about what she’s seeing? Should you say they are coo-coo and ignore them, or acknowledge it and see what happens? In my experience, there is only one thing to do when a child says they see spirits. What To Do If Your Child Says They See Spirits After consulting with a mentor medium at the time, I provided him the background on my daughter and asked for his suggestions. This was his advice. When chatting with a young person or child that says they are seeing spirits or communicating with someone in spirit through their mind’s eye, hearing or sensing the spirit, it’s important to acknowledge your child. Tell them you hear and accept what they are saying. Do not overreact, and definitely do not make a big deal out of their possible communications.   One thing we don’t want to do is overreact as this will put more pressure on our child and quite possibly make them feel that they are unable to communicate with us, or trust us.     What happened after I acknowledged my daughter’s spiritual communications? Well, the discussion faded and the comments about Alisa faded as well.  Why do some children feel and sense spirit? Spirit provides communication when children and ourselves are often in an altered state of consciousness. It’s very common that children are often playing mindlessly, painting or colouring, or even just relaxing on the floor and it’s in these times that their minds are able to wonder and quite possibly connect to the other side.     When an adult medium connects to spirit, we use this same altered state of consciousness to feel, sense, smell, see and know the sprint world is there and communicate with them. Children have an innate gift to be able to alter their state of consciousness because they are less busy with stress, workloads, and demands of the day. Us adults take a lot more work as we often have much more going on in our lives.   So the fact that children may alter their state of consciousness is one of the reason why children often talk about seeking Grandma, Grandpa and other family members, even animals and old family friends. Children can have this gift and it may stay with them till puberty or beyond, or may only stay with them for a few months. We never know as each person is very different. One thing I realized is that the recommendations from the mento medium were very helpful and I was very appreciative of them. At the end of the day when a child says they see spirits, we must simply stay calm and see what happens.

A very important aspect to learning spirit communication is understanding the definition of the Clair senses and how to feel and sense each of them.    The six most common Clairs are the primary ways in which mediums communicate with spirit during mediumship readings. The ability to utilize the Clairs is a combined effort with the spirit world.      So, let’s discuss each Clair. What are the 6 Clair senses? Clairsentience: Clear Feeling A medium is able to perceive information from the spirit world by blending with and feeling the spirit communicator. This is called Clairsentience, which is the ability to receive information through feelings in the physical body.   Contact with spirit often starts with Clairsentience, and is my belief that this is the most important of the Clair senses as it is an anchor for our spiritual communications. Without Clairsentience, a medium may not feel the blending happening from the spirit world. Clairsentience also provides emotions and feelings, which are very important for conveying the love and heartfelt feelings of the spirit world. Clairvoyance: Clear Seeing A medium is able to perceive information by seeing with the mind’s eye. This viewing from within the mind allows for pictures, movies, people, detailed visuals of the spirit’s memories, items, addresses, and locations that the spirit family wants to share. Without Clairvoyance, the medium would not have the visual detail to describe the life and times of the spirit person. Readings require clairvoyance to gain visual detail from the spirit world. Often a spirit will show visual information from their work life, home life, and personal life. They may even go on a mind-journey where they often guide me through their home and other important parts of their life. Almost like they’re giving me a tour. Clairvoyance is also important for viewing important documents and items of importance that spirit shows when needed.   Clairaudience: Clear Hearing  A medium is able to perceive information by hearing subjectively from the spirit world. This means sounds or words can come as more of an impression or feeling of a sound, rather than an actual sound.  For example, a spirit who was a train conductor in life would not blow a horn next to a medium’s ear, but the medium might hear subjectively in the mind the sound of a horn similar to what the spirit used to hear in life. It’s more so the memory, feeling or sensation of the sound of a horn versus the actual sound of a horn heard through the medium’s ear. This is what Clairaudience represents. Overall, communication via Clairaudience is different for each medium since not all mediums will hear as clearly as an ordinary conversation, and it is often subjective hearing through the mind. Clairgustance: Clear Tasting A medium is able to acquire information from the spirit world from sensing taste. The tastes could be of the spirit’s favourite foods, coffee and teas, medicine – anything that the spirit person can use to convey a message by way of taste.   Often the spirit world will leave a taste that occurs quickly and unexpectedly during the reading, in order for the medium to provide evidence to the sitter. Tastes can be amazing evidence, especially coming from a spirit person who loved to cook, or drink beer or tea, as an example. Sometimes the spirit will share the taste of the medicine they were taking before passing. Overall, Clairaudience is not mentioned as much during readings, however, it can be profound information that the spirit world wants to convey if the medium is able to blend with this Clair.  Clairalience: Clear Smelling  A medium is able to perceive information from the spirit world with the sense of smell. Smells could be foods, perfumes, outdoors, even hydraulic or engine oil– anything that the spirit is able to convey to the medium so that the sitter completely understands. Clairalience is, again, a subjective Clair like Clairaudience, because we don’t smell from outside our body using our actual nose; rather, the smell is registered in our mind as a smell we would recognize. It often feels as if the smell is just under the nose due to the strength of this Clair, however, a medium only utilizes the mind to smell. Often, it is the smell of an aged home, particular foods, perfume, cologne, or a cigarette that confirms the identity of the spirit to the sitter.  This Clair is beautiful for the sitter as evidence of spirit life. Claircognizance: Clear Knowing   A medium acquires information from the spirit world via a strong sense of knowing. This is a highly effective form of communication and must be trusted, for it is highly accurate. Claircognizance can include sensing knowledge about the person’s age, how they passed, types of jobs they had, relationships, and knowing parts of their life. A medium that utilizes Claircognizance will have fleeting feelings of just knowing something, information that drops into the mind. It is my opinion that the spirit world blends with our aura and drops these thoughts into our minds, and that we should trust this information. A medium that uses Claircognizance well and has the ability to allow information to flow with trust, will develop amazing skills to help the spirit world. Consider that the spirit world has the ability to do a “thought drop” within your mind, and one learns to trust this! This relationship and these abilities will grow to serve yourself and the spirit world well. How many clair senses should a medium have? When working as a medium, it is important to develop the ability to have three or four Clair’s running at the same time. When this ability has been mastered, the communication and detail for the spirit world cannot be questioned.  In addition, the spirit world has more capabilities for evidential mediumship utilizing all your Clair’s.  If you only use one or two this will limit the spirit world communication.   For myself,  I often have Clairsentience, Clairvoyance, and Claircognizance working together along

I have gathered a list of all my book recommendations for mediumship development below. These are the books that taught me, inspired me, and changed my life. I hope they will for you as well.